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5 Traits of Fascinating People


Fascinating people are a different breed and are therefore difficult to find. But when you do meet them, they are almost irresistible -- they are great to be around. These are 5 traits I find fascinating in people. 

1) Ask compelling, open-ended questions

I find people fascinating when they don't settle for asking questions everyone else asks. Instead, they ask questions that create space for open dialogue around interesting subjects.

2) Sincerely Listen

I find people fascinating when they look you in the eyes and value what you have to say. They tend to see every conversation as an opportunity to learn new things about someone or something

3) Demonstrate Vulnerability

I find people fascinating when they have a raw and unbridled devotion to authenticity. They are open about their shortcomings and flaws but aren't afraid to carry themselves with confidence in spheres where they have insight

4) Open Minded

I find people fascinating when they are not nervous or offended by ideas they don't necessarily agree with. They are passionate about their search for truth and refuse to assume they already have it completely captured

5) Childlike approach to life

I find people fascinating when they have a sincere zeal for the day. They don't have a naive perspective of the world; they simply choose to embrace the new possibilities and deal honestly with the hardships they face.

Unfortunately, I don't think I am very fascinating according to my own criteria. But these people give me something to shoot for.


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